Every
week our firm gets phone calls from clients around the country who have lost
their money by investing with friends, family or neighbors they trusted.
In
nearly every case, in the beginning there was a guarantee of unusually high
returns with no risk, and of course the promises of success from a trusted
relationship. However, by the time they call our office, the money is gone, their
calls are being ignored and they need legal advice on what to do next.
In
the worst cases, people have borrowed money against their own homes or used
their retirement plan in order to fund risky investments and businesses in
anticipation of higher returns, but now their nest egg is gone.
I
am constantly amazed at how many people will invest or loan hundreds of
thousands of dollars to their neighbor or fellow church member without getting
anything in writing or security. I just hear the constant excuse: "I
didn't want to hire a lawyer because it would have made the relationship
uncomfortable and I trusted them."
Investing
with people you know or who seemingly have a great reputation and tract record
may be comforting, but it has no bearing on whether an investment is sound or
the documentation to protect you is sufficient.
In
fact, I typically recommend my clients not invest with close friends and
family. This standard practice has two important benefits: In the beginning, it
takes emotion out of the equation and helps you to focus on the merits of the
opportunity. On the backend, when things get nasty or go bad, you will not
hesitate to aggressively protect your interests and go to court if necessary.
Most
people don't like to sue their family and friends -- it makes family reunions,
local sporting events, neighborhood parties and church functions too
uncomfortable. I strongly encourage you to think about this ugly feeling and
follow your gut before investing or doing business with a close friend or relative.
This
doesn't mean you can never invest with close friends and associates. I simply
suggest you go into this type of relationship with your eyes wide open. Realize
you're playing with fire and with a different set of rules. Here are some
important guidelines to follow:
In
a partnership or transaction with a close personal friend or family member,
emphasize the fact you want to consider all of the best and worse-case
scenarios so there's a game plan and you won't ruin your relationship.
Ironically, people use less documentation with
friends and family when they should actually use more. Go the extra mile to
even over-document the transaction so emotion is taken out of the equation.
Beware
of guarantees, aggressive sales pitches, requests for secrecy and situations
where people need money urgently. Ask the hard questions before you hand over
your money, not after.
Tell
them you promised your spouse or parents you would always use an attorney when
you invest your money in a project like this and you still respect and trust
them as a friend. A lawyer won't tell you if the investment is good or bad, but
whether it is documented properly and whether or not you're protected if it
doesn't perform as expected.
Bottom
line: if you feel you can't ask for thorough documentation, or could never sue
or send a nasty letter to the person you are going to be in business with, this
is probably a project you should walk away from to hang on to the relationship.
Courtesy: www.entrepreneur.com